Wednesday, June 18, 2014

The Art of Communication, 1,2,3 then Bham!

Patti &Dhwani, DSN Course Philadelphia

When you look at this photo...do you smile?
It is "Soul to Soul " communication.

No words are necessary.
It is the best form of communication, however, one of several.
There is also...


Head to Head communication = Conflict
Head to Heart communication = Manipulation
Heart to Heart communication = Understanding


This morning I read the knowledge below, by Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, and felt compelled to share it.
I have read it and practiced it many times. It has taught me patience and the skill of communication.
This knowledge has served me so well in my personal and professional life.

There is no value using our words to hit someone over the head with a hammer.
Even if you're right - you'll stand alone, feelings are hurt, and belongingness is destroyed.

There is also no value in not speaking at all to someone you are close to, when their behavior is negatively impacting themselves or others. I've found the best way to communicate is authentically, and from a space of love. It's important to choose the right time, i.e. when you feel that person is ready to receive what you have to share. Do not scold or guilt - who responds positively to that? That is simply layering negativity upon negativity, to get what you want.

Share from a space of love, with the aim of creating awareness of how their behavior is negatively impacting themselves or others.

If someone still chooses not to wake up to reality - then Sri Sri suggests, take a stick. Let them know how you will change your behavior toward them, as they are choosing to continue on the same negative track. This will maintain belongingness along with your peace of mind.

Let me know how it goes as you apply this ancient wisdom in modern times....


The Art of Communicnation
 by Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

These are four ways of persuasion:

When someone does something wrong or misbehaves with us, what do we do? First, we gently make them understand how they are wrong. Many people unknowingly commit a mistake, so once they understand that they are making a mistake, they do not repeat it the next time – this approach is called Saama (meaning to explain by persuasion).

You cannot blame someone for a mistake that they have made unknowingly. So Saamameans to explain to the other person the mistake he has committed and to make him aware of it.
Now, even after explaining the mistake, if they still go on repeating it, then what should you do? Then you should forgive them by saying, 'See, you realize that this is wrong, is it not? I forgive you, now do not do it again'. This is Daama.
So, at first, you make them aware without making them feel like a culprit. If they repeated it, then you make them feel responsible for the mistake, and forgive them.
You should never make a person feel like a culprit in the very first time of committing a mistake unknowingly. See, if you create guilt within them by blaming them at the very first instance, then they will never improve their ways. They will never be able to gain awareness and overcome their wrong ways.

So after Saama comes Daama.
Suppose even after doing all this, they continue to repeat their mistakes, then you need to adopt the approach of Danda (punishment). And if punishment also does not work, then one needs to adopt the way of Bheda (meaning to change one’s behaviour towards the other person).
Then you tell them, 'Okay, since you continue to repeat this mistake even after my telling you so many times, I am not going to behave the same way with you anymore'.
This will make them feel a pinch of guilt about what they have done, and they will understand the pain of their mistake.
Danda is the last measure one needs to adopt. When someone does not listen even after doing everything else, then you need to pick up a stick to make them understand. Someone who does not understand and improve their ways even after explaining and persuasion, will only understand through punishment (Danda).

Monday, June 9, 2014

NO HARSH WORDS 5 DAY CHALLENGE! are you ready?!





The first step to being on the spiritual path is not to blame yourself.  To forgive others, we must first start with sincerely forgiving ourselves.  The way to do this is to let go of the past.
See a mistake as a happening and learn from it.
How can we truly be there, sincerely be there, for another, if we are not there for ourselves?
Where is the sincerity, the integrity  in us if we pretend to be pleasant and hurl insults behind the back?

Join the 5 day challenge:

NO HARSH WORDS TO YOURSELF OR OTHERS UNTIL JUNE 14TH.


Whenever you choose to let go of what someone said to you, and contemplate what may really going on inside for them v.s. their negative expression, (remember the old saying..."walk a mile in my shoes?) , your awareness goes up, your center returns.  Your response will not be fueled by emotion from your side and you will respond skillfully, you won't react.

People say and do things that are hurtful, negative or destructive -  out of fear.
Remove the fear and the defense or attack consciousness cannot rise.
Remove the culprit (shame) or victim consciousness...same thing...hurt, anger, negativity can't exist.

Can we be honest? 

If someone calls you a bad name..how do you react?
If someone praises you...how to you react?
If someone calls you an idiot and shouts at you...how do you react?
If someone sincerely says, I love you...how do you react?
If someone ignores you...how do you react?
If someone criticizes you...how do you react?

If it's someone who is really close to you, something may expand or contract from within.
The question is, do you hold onto the words or do you take action to become free & back to center?

Our words...Your words...have Power
Every time we call someone a bad name, we complain, gossip or attack/defend with our words, all we're doing is spreading negativity on the planet.  The wise don't spread negativity nor are they affected by it. The skillful action may be to address it.  The best way to decide what the right action is - is to be free in your mind, centered in your heart - and then communicate.

The minute we step foot onto a spiritual path and start meditating, our words have more power.
The words of the enlightened have immense power.
This is why an enlightened master will say yes, if there is even 5% possibility, and,
they will say no only when something will bring harm.

Share the 5-day challenge with friends, family & frenemies 

When you lead by example, others follow.
Good or bad...so, let's lead with happiness!

I'd love to hear from you.





Saturday, June 7, 2014

THE VALUE OF OBTAINING A HUMAN BODY


I would say, don’t waste time waiting. Explore the depth of your Being and you will realize that the Supreme Consciousness is not someone coming in the future but is here, now. Faith in this knowledge is the sign of a seeker on the spiritual path - Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Brahmandanda Saraswati (Gurudev)
was the Shankaracharya of Jyotir Math. A Shankaracharya is the head of one of the four cardinal institutions established by Adi Shankara in the 8th century CE and its appointees bear the title of Shankaracharya. Adi Shankara was one of the (if not THE) greatest philosophers of all time.

The famous pop group, the Beatles, visited Rishikesh, India and spent time there with Maharishi Mahesh Yogi. Maharishi was a beloved devotee of Brahmananda Saraswati, also known as "Gurudev."

 A popular Beatles song, "Across the Universe", was written by John Lennon. It contains the refrain "Jai Guru Dev", meaning Victory to the Big Mind/Victory to Guru Dev. Guru is the remove of darkness and Dev is the play of the Divine. This is the beauty, the indescribable blessing of having a Guru.

I came across this writing of Gurudev's today and wanted to share it with you.  May his wisdom wake you up so that you do not waste one moment of this precious life in misery  or with harsh words,  but in sharing joy and love. 


TO GET A HUMAN BODY IS A RARE THING - MAKE FULL USE OF IT.

THERE ARE FOUR MILLION KINDS OF LIVES WHICH A SOUL CAN GATHER.

AFTER THAT, IT GETS ONE CHANCE TO BE HUMAN,
TO GET A HUMAN BODY.

THEREFORE,
 ONE SHOULD NOT WASTE THIS CHANCE.
EVERY SECOND IN HUMAN LIFE IS VALUABLE.

IF YOU DON'T VALUE THIS, THEN YOU WILL HAVE NOTHING IN HAND, AND
YOU WILL WEEP IN THE END.


BECAUSE YOU ARE HUMAN, GOD HAS GIVEN YOU POWER TO THINK
AND DECIDE WHAT IS GOOD AND BAD.

THEREFORE, YOU CAN DO THE BEST POSSIBLE KIND OF ACTION.

YOU SHOULD NEVER CONSIDER YOURSELF WEAK OR A FALLEN CREATURE.

WHATEVER MAY HAVE HAPPENED UP TO NOW MAY BE BECAUSE YOU
DIDN'T KNOW, BUT NOW - BE CAREFUL.

AFTER GETTING A HUMAN BODY, IF YOU DON'T REACH GOD, THEN YOU WILL
HAVE SOLD A DIAMOND FOR THE PRICE OF SPINACH.


Friday, May 9, 2014

Pay It Forward & Spread Love!



A dear friend gifted me money this past week in the form of $2.00 bills. A lot of them.

I had no idea what the significance of the crisp, new $2.00 bills was, but knew it meant something for him to have taken the time to provide a gift in this particular form of currency. I googled a few things and couldn't come up with any answer, so the next day I drove to my regular bank.

On the way a voice popped into my head and said,  "this bank could get robbed."
 THAT was unusual; there was no reason that I was aware of to think this.
I pushed it aside and continued into the parking lot, when the same thought popped in again...
"This bank could  get robbed."  This time I paid attention and went inside of myself, where intuition hangs out, before stepping out of the car.  Something said, its okay to go in today; nonetheless, I turned my awareness level up a few notches.

I was quite surprised to see a policeman in the bank as soon as I entered, instead of the usual friendly clerk who serves hot popcorn and cookies.

A smiling bank teller motioned for me to come forward. She was new and of Chinese heritage. This turned out to be a nice stroke of luck because, being of Asian descent, she knew what made a $2.00 bill special. According to her culture its a sign of luck to receive a $2.00 bill and she encouraged me to keep a few of them for myself and to hand out to loved ones.  She added that the person who gifted it to me had literally showered me with luck.  I let her know it was a gift from a dear student, to which she replied, "You must be a very good teacher," and she asked me what I taught.

I told her a bit about the Art of Living programs and the connection between our breath and our state of mind, and the ability to manage emotions. She listened intently and then leaned forward and whispered, " "We were robbed twice since the 5 months I've been here. It just happened again last week and they haven't caught the guy." This explained the words of caution I head from within.

She said that she is very afraid to come to work now and she's seeing therapist but it isn't helping  her very much. She's frightened and so is her husband.

I could see the fear in her eyes, so I took the time to explain a little bit more about the Art of Living program ) and the connection between the breath and emotions that helps us to let go of fear.  She was so grateful to know about the Art of Living program ( www.artofliving.org) and I invited her to attend an upcoming free seminar.

She took my hands and said, " You are my Angel today. I'm coming with my husband".

Its amazing to witness the domino impact one act of generosity had on so many lives.

DO YOU HAVE A PAY IT FORWARD STORY TO SHARE ?

I'd love to hear from you!




Thursday, April 24, 2014

FEEL THE FEAR & DO IT ANYWAY!




I'm just back from a DSN program (Creating a Divine Society) in Seattle, Washington, offered through the Art of Living Foundation (www.artofliving.org). Its the most powerful self-transformation program I've ever had the honor to share with others.

Expanding oneself creates expansion in the family, which expands the consciousness in society.

DSN  is a rocket-ship to self-awareness. It empowers individuals with confidence, clarity of mind, enthusiasm with self-motiviation along with an appreciation of sharing it with others. Learning the power of YES v.s. the usual tendency of the mind to say no - brings extraordinary peace and dynamism to life. It's a challenging  to "feel the fear" and "do it anyway!", but, it's worth it.

I can honestly say I don't remember backing away from any challenge in my life, whether it was personal, professional or otherwise.  Although there are a few challenges I probably should have let pass by, especially when i was younger!

I didn't always succeed at first when meeting a challenge head on, whether it was a job promotion, an assignment I didn't feel qualified for, taking a stand or living abroad on my own. There were times
when i was just completely unsure of how to handle things like helping a friend pass on or taking the decision to divorce.

No matter what, to me the idea of not feeling the fear and moving through it, just wasn't an option.
Life is too short to live in fear of the unknown and miss out on the chance to rise to the occasion.
It requires moving out of the comfort zone with faith. It requires a willingness to experience something greater than yourself and trusting that nature loves you - dearly.

My experience is that such a willingness and faith IS the recipe for a purpose-filled, happy life.

This photo is from a few years ago when my nephew Michael, 14 at the time, asked me to go on a ride that  required putting on a harness and free-falling from 50 feet. He promised that if I did it -  I'd be his favorite Aunt for 10 years. It was SCARY but making him happy was greater than sticking to my comfort zone.  He's going on 19 now, and I've got a few more years to enjoy the promise!

The feeling of free-falling like that?
AMAZING!!



HERE'S A CHALLENGE: GO OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE TODAY!
What are you waiting for?

No one is going to knock on your door and present expansion in a pretty package with no risk.
You take the risk and watch how the Divine supports you. It might not look that way at first, but in time - you'll see how much you grow and are richer for the experience. We all do.

When we go beyond what we  think we can do, it's a powerful experience to SEE what we can do!

INSPIRING WISDOM FROM SRI SRI RAVI SHANKAR
WWW.SRISRI.ORG

Always know that the Divine never gives you a responsibility you cannot fulfill. No one ever expects you to treat them if you are not a doctor. No one will ask you to fix their wiring system if you are not an electrician.
  • Your responsibility is only what you can do.
  • You do not know what you can do.
  • Always accept that you do not know what you can do.
  •  Ignorance of your capability can expand you.
When you know what you can do, you can progress. But when you do not know what you can do, you can grow by leaps and bounds.
When you know what you can do, you can do things. When you do not know what you can do, you can do things even better!
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, Bangalore Ashram, India
October 18, 2000

Friday, March 14, 2014

HOW TO ENJOY MORE HAPPINESS THIS SPRING



It's springtime here in the Rocky Mountains; a wonderful time to renew ourselves while nature renews itself! 

One day we have snow here and the next day, it's warm enough to ride a bike along the creek enjoying the sound of the birds singing. 

Spring is simply a magical & ideal time for us to get into the rhythm of nature. What  is the natural rhythm of your  nature?

HAPPINESS! 

ABC News recently reported on the positive impact meditation has in bringing about greater states of happiness. The US Marines, executives at Target, Aetna Insurance and Google are all prescribing to meditation, including students in classrooms across the nation.
http://abcnews.go.com/US/meditation-wiring-brain-happiness/story?id=14180253

The breathing techniques and meditations experienced through the Art of Living Happiness program (http://www.artofliving.org/us-en/art-living-course-part-1) are guaranteed to bring more happiness to your life. It just make sense. Learning how to skillfully bring about a stillness from within, to manage the mind and emotions, brings an extraordinary amount of energy, focus and creativity.  What a perfect gift of renewal for yourself to line up with nature and move with the rhythm of spring.

Meditation is the key to enjoying: more energy, enthusiasm and "get up and go" to do all the things you want to accomplish in life. The breathing techniques taught in the Art of Living's Happiness program( http://www.artofliving.org/sudarshan-kriya) allow you to do more in less time, with fewer mistakes while continually recharging your internal battery!

20 REASONS TO MEDITATE 
Psychology Today published a very good article by Dr. Emma Seppala on 20 reasons to meditate.  http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/feeling-it/201309/20-scientific-reasons-start-meditating-today.
Dr. Seppala is a friend and a fellow Art of Living teacher. Her research on the benefits of the Sudarshan Kriya breathing and meditations breathing techniques are impressive.

YOUR SOUL IS YOUR GARDEN
I enjoy gardening in the springtime. There is something really wonderful about tilling the soil and preparing it for new life to grow. Every morning, as soon as my feet hit the floor, I'm out the door with a cup of tea in hand, walking through the rows of green vegetables and a rainbow of flowers. It's invigorating and inspiring to witness new life springing up every day. It just make me feel good!

Why not do the same for yourself this spring?

The power breathing and meditation techniques learned in the Art of Living's Happiness Program are like tilling the soil and restoring it with healthy and rich nutrients and watering it with love. Nature showers you with grace when you're in its natural rhythm, free of the habits, patterns, fears and worries that don't serve the highest expression of who you really are.  Quickly life begins to bloom with more colors...happy colors. As a result, you and all around you...smile brighter.

Click here to enjoy a guided meditation, led by renowned spiritual leader,
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Title: Transforming Emotions



Sunday, February 16, 2014

One By One We Change a Life & Our Own



The year was 2,000 and new millennium was ushering itself in. People all over the world were building underground bunkers in preparation for the "end of the world" with the added concern as to what would happen to the computer systems. The Mayan calendar stopped at this point and all kinds of thoughts were running in people's minds about what it all meant.

I had the incredible grace in life to be with Sri Sri Ravi Shankar during this time in Italy.
The Art of Living had organized a "Millennium Course" in Tuscany and I said goodbye to 1999 and hello to 2000 meditating next to Gurudev on the beach. It's a very precious memory.

I was pretty restless during these days, anxious to make a huge impact in the world and inpatient to do so.  Walking alone with Gurudev I expressed some frustration. " Gurudev, it's all moving so slow. I don't feel like I'm accomplishing much". He quietly said, "One by One Patti. One by One."

I acknowledged his response with a yes in the mind, and asked my next question. "Who am I?
 How is it I'm so American on one hand and then dancing, in clothes from India at a Satsang (spiritual gathering)  the next moment?"

Full of peace he patiently answered, "Stay with this question. The answer will come. Like the sun, it just gives its rays whether someone takes them or not. Then you will see, you are here just to serve, expecting no results. No need for results.  Then you will say; Thy Will Be Done and you will have fulfillment.

It's 2013, and 13 years later I still return the precious wisdom again and again.
The spiritual path isn't always roses. It takes incredible conviction to make it to the top of the mountain for the view that I'm told is worth it. Alot of people stop climbing just before they reach the top in this or in many things in life.  I'm determined to make it all the way.

There are times when people try to sway me one way or the other, out of misguided love.
Yet each time I start to falter a little, I return to this precious wisdom and I find even more depth in his words and guidance and how my life has been impacted because of Sri Sri as my "life coach", for the better

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Later that evening a small group of us sat at the feet of the Master as he generously poured more knowledge into our innocent hearts.  He said that there are 4 reasons to be with a Guru.

1.) You want to evolve, you want knowledge, enlightenment
2.) You are in pain in the world (mental, emotional, physical) & it's more comfortable
3.) You have a vision for the world (like Mother Theresa)
4.) You are here to make the Guru comfortable, to support his vision.

Now you probably have a question...what was my answer?
This I will keep secret, in the cave of my heart.